You are wonderful

Recently I watched Netflix’s Over the Moon, a cute animation film about a girl named Fei Fei who travels to the moon to meet Chang e, a mythical goddess who is separated from her lover and stays on the moon after given immortality.

I’m a sucker for animation films and I’m also a crybaby so I did cry watching this and it has even inspired me to write this post because I have so many feels after watching this movie.

One of the main themes in this movie is love and moving on. Fei Fei has a hard time moving on after her mother’s death and does not feel comfortable accepting her dad’s new girlfriend or her son. Conversely, Chang e has been trapped on the moon after being separated from her lover, who has eventually died over his time on Earth.

The true message of this film teaches us to move on, accept new love and be happy in our lives without forgetting those who have left us. This is something that is hard to do. In many parts of the film, Chang e and Fei Fei both ask “But how?” How do we do this? How do we move on? How do we stop hurting?

I think we all understand this type of feeling. We want to hold onto things from the past because we know for certain we were happy then. We feel guilty when we accept new fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters and lovers because it feels like we are replacing our previous ones. We fight against this. We fight against change. We fight against people who want to love us. We fight against our future happiness.

I also don’t really have an answer on how we stop this fighting. Does it just take some time to accept new people and new environments? Does it take bravery? All I know is that is can be very difficult, especially when we are still sad or missing someone.

If you are going through something like this right now, I just want you to know that whenever you are ready to take a look around you, you will see all the love that surrounds you – love that is waiting for you to accept them. This can be a friend who checks up on you every now and then, or your dad who never talks to you but cuts you fruit and brings it to your room, or your pet nuzzling their face against your hand.

Whenever you are ready, you will find happiness again. It might not be the same type of love or the same happiness because it won’t be from the person who has left, but maybe that’s not a bad thing.

If you release the past
You’ll move ahead and bloom at last
The heart grows and it knows
You can glow
You’re wonderful

Ken Jeong/Goby

Sincerely, Loewe